I am actually quite surprised to see how few of my female patients are utilising the wondrous little invention that is a vibrator.
If you are one of those who are skeptical, you are probably thinking of the massive vibrating dildos with angry looking rabbits and metallic bits rotating fiercely inside of them or the real-life ones in this off-pink colour with veins and all.
Not all vibrators are created equal!
I think the idea of bigger being better, when it comes to vibrators, is outdated. Sure, there is something to be said for experiencing life-size fullness, but lets be honest: it is all about the clitoris. The nerve endings in the clitoris are exceptionally sensitive to the right intensity of vibration – hundreds of times more so than the vagina or any other part of the genitals.
Therefore, a tiny bullet vibrator will do the trick in most cases. It does not look suspicious – in some cases just like lipstick! It is non-threatening to the partner because there is not another penis in the room. It can easily be used to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse since most women do not easily climax through penetration only.
There are also vibrating cock-rings, little finger vibrators, the very popular we-vibe that is inserted vaginally but has an external part that can stimulate the clitoris and is designed in such a way that a man can penetrate with it in the vagina.
Good news: Guys do not have to feel left out! Being stimulated with a vibrator can be just as much fun for a guy! The most sensitive part of mans body is the frenulum – the piece of skin on the bottom of the head of the penis. This area reacts very well to stimulation with a vibrator, also the perineum (the area between the scrotum and the anus) and around the anus as well as the nipples.
Same goes for girls – just because it works really well on the clitoris, don’t forget about the other erogenous zones and enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
Caution: orgasms induced by vibrators are different form other orgasms. Make sure you don’t get dependant on your vibrator for your orgasm. Make sure you use it only as a fun aid every now and then and don’t for one moment think that it will solve every (if any!) problem in the bedroom.