MSH Medical
Dilators

Not if used correctly. You might feel some pressure or slight discomfort at first, but it should never be painful.

The goal is gentle stretching — not pushing through pain. Breathe, go slowly, and stop if anything feels too intense. It's okay to take your time.

Everyone is different. Some people notice progress within a few weeks, while others need several months.

What matters is consistency, not speed. This is a process, not a race.

Start with once a day for 10–15 minutes. As your comfort increases, aim for around 30 minutes per session, 3–4 times a week.

Once you're using your goal size comfortably, you can reduce frequency to maintain progress.

Yes — if you're comfortable and relaxed enough. Many people find success sleeping with smaller dilators or Stub Dilators, often using tight underwear or leggings to hold them in place.

Start slow and listen to your body.

If you can insert your current size easily, without resistance or emotional stress, you're probably ready to try the next one.

Some people also use two sizes in a single session — starting with the smaller one and then progressing to the next.

Half sizes are ideal for gentle, gradual progress. If the jump between two standard sizes feels too big, a half size gives your body a chance to adapt slowly — reducing fear and discomfort.

Our Stub Dilators come in half sizes, shorter and wearable for daytime use.

Plateaus are common — and temporary. Take a break if needed, revisit breathing and relaxation, or step back to a smaller size for a few days.

If you're still feeling stuck, it might be helpful to see a pelvic floor physiotherapist for personalised support.

Yes — that's exactly what Stub Dilators are for. They're shorter, with in-between widths, and designed to be worn while standing, walking, or going about your day.

They can be used for passive stretching while you're busy with other things.

Only when you feel emotionally and physically ready. A good starting point is when you're comfortable inserting a Size 5 dilator.

You can gradually introduce them into the process — guide their hand, let them observe, and communicate openly throughout.

You're ready when you can insert a dilator that's similar in size to your partner's penis without pain or panic.

Still unsure? Use a string to measure the girth of the penis and compare it to your dilator. Start slowly, communicate clearly, and follow your body's cues.

Once you're ready for penetration, you can switch from a water-based lubricant to a silicone-based lubricant for partnered sex. Silicone lubes are long-lasting and gentle — especially helpful if you're still building confidence.

Being on top often gives you the most control over depth and speed. If that feels awkward, lying on your back and guiding your partner slowly toward you can work just as well.

Replicate your usual dilation routine as a lead-in.

It depends on frequency and comfort. If you're having pain-free intercourse at least 3 times per week, you may not need to dilate anymore.

If sex is irregular or still slightly uncomfortable, keep up your dilation routine for maintenance.

A slight burning feeling can happen — it's usually from stretched muscles or irritated nerves. Try soothing the area with a gentle intimate soothing gel, a water-based lube, or a silicone-based lubricant.

If you've been prescribed any creams by your doctor, you can also reapply them.

Yes — especially if progress is slow, pain persists, or you're unsure of your technique. These professionals specialise in treating conditions like vaginismus and can make a world of difference.

Find a qualified pelvic floor physiotherapist in your area.